Okay so I figured this out for anyone having the same problem.
Screen res. in visual pinball tables folder
and
config folder in Pinballx directory...….I also think you can do this in settings on display
You must match the backglass resolution and monitor number.....again you must match these two files to display the same resolution and monitor number. For some reason Mines was not the same don't know why but I matched them and bam! just like that Everything is fine now..thank god!
Not sure where I read this but I remember someone saying not to have multiple visual pinball and pinball x programs more than once installed on your computer if you do make sure you only have one by deleting them you may need to reinstall your current vp and pbx programs again not sure about that one thought.
I hope someone views This before losing your head like I did. Thanks scutters.
Edit: Right clicking on backlass will bring up options to show/hide speaker grill and to hide/show dmd do this on while launched in pinballx to have your backglass the way you want it